This week, Tom Bilyeu posted this picture on Twitter sharing five steps to meet growth-minded people.  Bilyeu, the entrepreneur behind Quest Nutrition and Impact Theory, is passionate about helping people achieve their potential.

Bilyeu’s five steps are:

  1. Be the kind of person driven people want to be around.
  2. Do things that have an element of competition.
  3. Pursue any passion that gets you out and about in groups.
  4. Join social groups that self-identify as being about mindset and personal improvements.
  5. Introduce yourself to as many people in these situations as possible.

If you’ve been following along, you know I’m passionate about having a growth mindset and working on personal development.  But it’s been a struggle for me to meet other like-minded people. The truth is that I just don’t relate to most people my age.  I’m not going out and partying or planning my next EDM festival, I’m going for a hike or working on my craft. At this age, being nose deep in drugs can be “cooler” than nose deep in a book, and that’s a disappointing reality.

So I have a smaller, tight crew.  People on the same path with relationships built on trust.

But I have put an emphasis on meeting more like-minded people and I think Bilyeu’s steps are a great starting place.

My only addition would be to not only introduce yourself to people in these situations but to find a way to get below the surface level.  I’m Tom, I’m in sales, blah blah blah. The way to make real connections is to go a layer deeper. Grab a coffee after your SoulCycle class or pottery workshop and get to know them.  Be vulnerable and authentic and people will do the same.

But don’t forget step #1 – be the kind of person driven people want to be around.

That’s one of the great benefits of running Millennial Momentum.  It tells people about who I am, what I’m about.  It’s a magnet for other people who feel the same way.  I met with three different people this week that I met in some way through my podcast or blog and it’s become a gift that keeps on giving.

So if you’re having a tough time finding like-minded people, take a breath.  In a world that’s seemingly becoming shallower by the day, it’s not an easy process.  But follow the above steps and you’ll get there. Take one step today.

Let’s make this a great week.

Weekly Six-Pack
Here are the 6 things to check out this week:

  1. In 1999, Pete Carroll got fired from the New England Patriots head coaching job and was a broken man.  This week, I wrote about the lesson he learned that completely changed his coaching career. 
  2. I stumbled across the book “Steal Like An Artist” during a trip to Stinson Beach, California last weekend.  I devoured the book in two days and it’s become one of my favorite books on creativity.  
  3. I enjoyed reading this article on the difference between Amazon and Ben & Jerry’s. 
  4. This week, Gary V dropped a 200+ slide deck that teaches you how to make dozens of pieces of content…per day.  He is a wild man. 
  5. Edward Norton has been on a tear with podcasts promoting his new movie.  I thought his episode with Tim Ferriss was great and I’m excited to check out Motherless Brooklyn. 
  6. Looking for a movie to rewatch?  Give Rounders a go this weekend.  It may have the best opening line of any movie ever: “Listen, here’s the thing.  If you can’t spot the sucker in your first half-hour at the table, then you’re the sucker.”

Quote of the Week

“I have observed that those who have accomplished the greatest results are those who ‘keep under the body’; are those who never grow excited or lose self-control, but are always calm, self-possessed, patient and polite.”

– Booker T. Washington

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